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It’s the CAREGIVER’s Vacation Too!!

Every day I deal with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Social Phobia, Generalized Anxiety, Major Depression, and Hereditary Spastic Paraparesis. However, I personally only “suffer” from a mild case of depression. So why do I deal with all those other things? Simple, I am a mom, girlfriend, and caregiver to two wonderful people that are diagnosed with these mental and physical problems. Disney trips are a chance for all of us to forget about the diagnoses for a little while, to an extent.

I am the trip planner. I make sure that my boyfriend gets face time with his favorite characters in an environment where he is more comfortable. This means that I reserve a dinner or breakfast seating at one of those restaurants that has character dining with Stitch or Chip and Dale. (Although, I did surprise myself this last time with a breakfast at 1900 Park Faire where Tigger was in attendance. I really didn’t know he would be there.) If we have to wait in line, he feels rushed and anxious because everyone is “watching” him while he visits with 626 or the ‘munks. Although, one of my favorite photos from his first Disney trip is that first meeting with Chip and Dale outside Innoventions in Epcot. He was able to forget his anxiety and depression for a few moments and be a kid.

I also make sure that my daughter gets time with Goofy and that she is able to enjoy her favorite rides. I push her wheelchair and get her to Splash Mountain or to Goofy’s Barnstormer (when it was there). I worry about how much walking she does because I don’t want her to spend the nights in pain because she over did the walking. She doesn’t always like it when I tell her she needs to use the wheelchair at Disney, but she always thanks me at the end of the day.

However, I have to remember that it is MY vacation too. I get so caught up and trying to make sure that the two of them have all the accommodations they need to enjoy the trip that I forget to make sure we do something I want to do as well.

In 2007, my daughter and I made our first trip to Walt Disney World. Since it was her first visit, I tried to make sure she got to do everything she wanted to do. She didn’t have a wheelchair at that time, so she walked from 7:00 or 8:00 AM to whenever Evening Extra Magic Hours were over.I spent the trip concerned about her legs and making sure that she found some relief with her ibuprofen and  hot baths at night. I wanted to explore World Showcase, but because her legs were hurting so much by the time we went to Epcot, we only visited Mexico before returning to Future World.

In 2009, my boyfriend joined us for another trip to Walt Disney World. Once again, I wanted to explore World Showcase. This time, my daughter had a wheelchair, but my boyfriend wasn’t comfortable with crowds in World Showcase the day we were at Epcot due to his social phobia. Once again, the thing I most wanted to do was put to the back burner. I saw it as a reason for another trip to Walt Disney World.

In 2011, I FINALLY realized that I was spending so much time making sure that they enjoyed their vacation, that I had moments where I didn’t enjoy it very much. I found that I would feel a little resentment that we didn’t get to do what I wanted to do while at Disney. So this last time I “put my foot down” that I was going to explore World Showcase. If they didn’t want to explore it with me, then I would meet them either at the resort or at our dinner reservation.

It was “quick” exploration. I didn’t go inside to all the pavilions. However, I did make sure to enjoy something in each country. Admittedly, a few of those enjoyments were of the adult beverage variety, but other enjoyments were things like the attention to detail in the buildings. In Germany, I indulged myself in a chocolate and caramel dipped pretzel stick. (YUM!!!!) In the outpost I enjoyed watching the artisan carve animals from wood. Exploring the World is one of my favorite memories from this last trip. Both of my loved ones joined me in my exploration. They each found something they liked and enjoyed. I even heard them both say that we needed to spend more time in World Showcase next time we go.

What I had finally realized is that these are my vacations too. While I still need to worry about their hidden needs and make sure that they are able to enjoy themselves despite these needs, I also need to enjoy myself and relax. As my daughter gets older, she is also becoming more independent. I can see that on our next trip, she will probably want to go off and explore on her own for a while.

As caregivers to family or friends with Hidden and Special Needs, we often forget to take some time for ourselves. This is a common caregiver lament. Every article I have ever read about HOW to be a good caregiver tells us to take some time for ourselves. However, we rarely do this. Many caregivers have the same line of thinking that I do: “If I don’t take care of it, then who will?” We often put our needs aside to focus on the needs of those we love. (This is a common parental lament as well.) Vacations are meant for everyone to relax a bit. They are a chance to do something other than worry about someone’s special needs. Vacations are meant to give us a respite from our every day lives. As caregivers, we need to recognize that it is not just our loved ones’ vacations. It is OUR vacation too.

So next time you are planning a trip to Disney, or anywhere else, make sure to plan in something YOU want to do. If the others don’t want to do it, that’s fine; enjoy your alone time. If they do want to join you, then it is a happier memory because they took part in something you wanted to experience. So what am I planning for our next Disney trip? Well, we are discussing a Disney cruise and I see some spa time in my future.

How do I plan out my dining reservations?

One of the most common questions I see on the PassPorter discussion boards is “how do you plan it all?”

The Disney Queue - planning your dining reservations

 

Recently, dolphin041599 asked:

I’m wondering how to best decide which day for each meal and where. And with all the ADRs needed, how do you organize yourself? Does anyone use a chart or spreadsheet?

 What things do you take into consideration? Park hours, type of meal, etc. Since the only ADR I ever made before was for Cinderella’s castle (which got cancelled due to the hurricane), I don’t know what else to consider. We’ve been studying our Passporter and deciding restaurants that sound good, but I just don’t know the best way to figure out when to eat where.

And then of course, to keep it all organized to make the ADRs”

 (See her original question, and the subsequent responses of our members, HERE)

 

Hmmm… let’s just say I’m a “PLANNER.”

It’s in my blood, this planning mania. I like charts, I like spreadsheets, I like figuring stuff out and developing visual tools that let me get my arms around something as potentially disastrous,  massive, and expensive  as a Disney World vacation.

Anyone traveling with me has to accept that. (Or have their own planning method that I trust enough to be willing to cede planning to them. And, if you’ve read any trip reports that I’ve been a part of, you know to whom I’m referring. )


Everyone has their own organizational method for planning their trips, touring, and dining. My husband, for example, would just show up and say “I’m hungry, let’s eat.”

Any other SANE person will probably want to do a little more planning than my husband when it comes to a Disney World vacation, especially if they’ve purchased the Disney Dining Plan and want to make sure they don’t wind up using up their credits too soon, or worry about having tons of unused credits on their last day.

Let me give you MY approach to planning our dining. It might just work for you too.

 

Start with your touring plan.

Why? Because you’ll waste precious in-park time traveling back and forth to restaurants that don’t fall in line with your touring plans.

And touring plans, for me, start with crowd calendars.

My favorite is the subscription-based one at Touringplans.com (and, for a measly $10.95 per year –as of the time I’m writing this blog post– that’s a steal!) Yes, you can see some free information on the site, but you won’t have the data for dates 180-days out, and you’ll NEED that info in order to snag ADRs at the times and places you want them. (Yes… people really do make their dining decisions 6 months prior to their vacation! Trust me, they do — and you should too.)

Here’s a sample of how Touringplans.com organizes their data:

Touringplans.com crowd calendar
Touringplans.com crowd calendar

 

They give you a date, tell you what ‘crowd level’ they assign to the expected crowds (and you can get info on what a ’5′ means compared to a ’10′ HERE), plus they outline what they consider your best park of the day will be, and what park(s) they feel will be much more crowded: what they call a “park to avoid.” If there are any special events — like a hard-ticket party, a holiday, or a special event — it will be listed in the notes column.

If you click on an actual date (highlighted in blue), that will bring up even more  information on that individual day, with details on special events in each park like the parades, fireworks and shows. It’ll also list if that park has an Extra Magic Hour.

Here’s what it looked like when I selected one of the days to get detailed information:

Detailed info from Touringplans.com
Detailed info from Touringplans.com
 

I highlighted the “Park to Avoid” and “Best Park” info — this is key information to me.

Ok, great. Now how do I *use* that info?!

 

Make a chart

Why? Because I love charts.

You can make a list. You can make a folded bit of origami. Whatever floats your boat and helps you organize.

This is what my standard chart looks like:

My standard planning chart
My standard planning chart – you can download the template HERE.

 

I then use the crowd calendar to fill in the park hours (as they stand at the time of my planning) and what park will have Extra Magic Hours, and – this is the important part for me – the “park to avoid” and “best park” info from Touringplans.com. I feel they’re spot-on and they’ve never steered me wrong.

Parks to avoid/best park
Parks to avoid/best park

 

One caveat: we always get park hoppers and are early risers, so we’ll get up and go to EMH mornings and then hop to the recommended-park-of-the-day.

It works for us…

 

Choose your park for the morning, afternoon, and/or evening

Assuming you have park hoppers, you’ll need to figure out if you’ll hop to other parks or would like to take down-time at the pool, or go shopping at Downtown Disney, or play mini-golf, or… well… there’s so much to DO at Disney, you’ll never get bored!

But you do need to plan it out if you’re at all persnickety like me.

When I’m planning out the days, I try to figure out when we’ll see the parades, fireworks and Fantasmic, with options for seeing it later in the trip in case of a rain-out.

With that info, I know which park we’ll be in for breakfast/lunch and which park we’ll be in through dinner.

(Note that my family frequently eats something in our room as we get ready in the mornings and don’t tend to do breakfasts in the parks — when the crowd levels are low in the early morning, taking time to stop and eat will seriously impact the amount of things we can get done.)

 

Choose your restaurants for each meal

I make a list of restaurants my family would like to try that vacation, so it’s just a matter of, for example, seeing that I have us planned for Epcot at dinnertime. Aha! Plug in Coral Reef for dinner. Oh… and we’re at the Magic Kingdom for lunch that day? Plug in Cosmic Rays.

 And so on and so forth until I have plans for every day and every meal. When I’ve filled in every open spot, it’s time to review the chart.

 

For those worried that planning out meals so far in advance will take the spontaneity out of the trip, I would advise “letting it go.” Make the plans now, and then tuck them away. When you pull out your planning chart a week before the vacation, it’ll all be a fun surprise again. And, if you can keep from pestering your family about it over the months of waiting and anticipation, it’ll be a surprise to them too!!

 

Make sure you’re getting your money’s worth if on the Dining Plan

If you’re on the DDP, make sure that you account for every table service (TS) meal and every (CS) meal and every Snack that comes with your reservation (remember: one set of credits per person per night of your stay.) You have through midnight of the day you check out to use up all the credits, but you don’t want to run short a day early, or end up with 12 leftover counter service credits on your last day.

What I do to avoid that sort of hiccup is to make a list with columns for each type of credit (TS, CS, Snack.) Then I pencil in hash marks for each credit that will used for each meal or snack I’ve planned out. That way, I  know what I’ll  have to pay for out-of-pocket and what I’ll have to shift around to use up all my credits wisely.

With that chart (or list, or origami swan!) filled out, you have what you need to make your ADRs.

Don’t forget to write down all of your confirmation numbers and, if you’re as detail-oriented as me, mark them on your chart or put them into your smart phone so you’ll have them in the park. Having them will help you if, for whatever reason, you have trouble checking in for that ADR — I’ve learned this first-hand!

 

Et voila! You have a viable plan for your vacation meals!!

 

Here’s what two days of an actual planning chart looked like for one of my family’s trips:

From one of my old planning charts
From one of my old planning charts

 

This approach might work for you too.

Or… maybe you like spreadsheets better (I know a few people like that! )  So… got to town with Excel and plan like crazy.

Or… maybe you like a legal pad and pencil. Good on ya! If it works for you, it works for you.

And with whatever works for you, have a blast. Enjoy it — for me, planning is part of the fun.

So, good luck planning!

And eating!!