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32 days to GOal!! Dealing with the duality!

Posted 04-10-2010 at 01:56 PM by Sandra Bostwick
Updated 04-10-2010 at 02:09 PM by Sandra Bostwick
Angie posted this interesting comment yesterday:

Today my 4 yr old daughter Alice asked me... "how come you are a Cleaning lady and an Artist at the same time.
I like to call this "The Cinderella Cycle". I am a cleaning lady so I can be an artist... if I want to be an artist, I need to be a cleaning lady... and as I clean, I remind myself why I do. So I can be at home with Alice, paint and take her to Disney.
So she is at school now, I come home, open my studio door and declare to the dog "today I am an ARTIST". I make my surroundings smell of Orange (Florida of course) and it brings me back to Main st.

So now I must go be an artist!
But above all... I am a stay at home mom!

Posted Yesterday at 09:53 AM by A.Daley

(Here's me)

I can really resonate with this comment.

Right now there is ALOT of duality in the things I want to accomplish and the "person" that I want to be.

I love being an occupational therapist. It really is a great gig. I get to spend the day with beautiful children or interesting young adults as a living.

BUT, that is just not ALL of it. I really want to be a writer.

On top of that, I really love teaching my Academic Strategies and writing class at the college.

Because there are different passions in my life, I often feel as if I am headed in different directions at once.

And the, let's talk about hobbies! I love to work in the garden, I love to learn and study interesting topics, and I love to relax creatively in a spa or exotic location.

Today I am going to spend some time reflecting on how I can still be true to the different aspects of who I am and who I aspire or choose to be in the context of staying focused.

Can anyone relate to that? Has anyone figured out any strategies for dealing with duality?

And that is my blog entry for today.
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    I think we all can relate, we do more than one thing and wear more than one hat. Another great entry Sandy. I admire you for sticking and keeping up with you blog! Congrats!
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    Posted 04-10-2010 at 02:57 PM by 4Disney2 4Disney2 is offline
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    Thanks! It is somehow so much easier now that I am doing a countdown. I have to say that, midway, I felt like I was in a blog-black-hole and I'd never see the other end.

    I'm just so thankful for the people who stuck with it.

    I've learned so much from this experience!
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    Dealing with duality can be manageable most of the time... as long as there is a daily to-do list, priority project list, a time line list... etc, etc, something to visually look at to center you and tell you "you are a little off track".
    Duality can be difficult for me at times due to people in my life that insist on one side when to me the other side is needed.
    I am an artist, I consider myself Work From Home (so I can stay at home with Alice) but sometimes when the phone rings... I cringe... somebody wants something that, in their opinion, is far more important than any job I may be doing... and there is no reason why I can't stop it to be "the other person"... so sometimes I am told which hat hat to wear. I have to remind myself that I know which one to wear on which day... now I just have to tell them that!!
    On that note... today I was an artist... so for you Sandy...
    Have a magical evening!
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    Posted 04-10-2010 at 09:30 PM by A.Daley A.Daley is offline
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    Angie, your painting puzzle piece looks AWESOME!

    I agree that other people's agendas or beliefs can really get in the way of certain goals.

    By the way, I saw Alice in Wonderland yesterday. I LOVED the ending!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There was one girl who was not afraid to go after what she really wanted, once she got back her "Muchness".

    Now I'm going to get my "Muchness" back!
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    I found the ending brought the same excitement... I use the term "Muchness" quite often now... as the same reminder that I shouldn't fear going after what I want...
    I bought a necklace from JAPAN in EPCOT when I was there in December. It is a silver Japanese symbol with a black leather necklace... the symbol meant "NOTHINGNESS" and for me, it meant more than nothingness, I had to have it, to wear it as sort of a warrior symbol... I am more than nothing, I can be more than nothing, and this beautiful piece that I bought from the one place I want to be for life reminds me of what I must to do not be "NOTHINGNESS"
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    Posted 04-10-2010 at 10:08 PM by A.Daley A.Daley is offline
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    Sandra Bostwick's Avatar
    Angie, you and I are both on the path back to Muchness! I can feel it!

    In no time at all we are both going to be WAY too much!

    Is anyone else trying to get back their muchness?
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    Posted 04-10-2010 at 11:01 PM by Sandra Bostwick Sandra Bostwick is offline
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    I am working on getting my Muchness back as well. I feel like I have done a pretty good job on that though. It took me a few years to figure out how much of my Muchness I had lost, and it is taking me a while to get it back, but get it back I am. Part of getting my Muchness back involves Disney. I truly believe I began to get it back on the day that I decided to take my DD to Disney for the first time. Since then, I have days where I get lots of it back and days where I lose some of it. (Like those days where I had recently broken up with a boyfriend and felt like no one wanted me at all.) Now I have a wonderful DD, a truly amazing DBF, and a terrific group of friends (IRL and online) and together they all support me in different ways as I gather my Muchness up around me again. I have become an in home travel agent so I can help others plan their Disney vacations. I go to school so that I can fulfill my life long dream of being a teacher. I am working on becoming a Guide for Passporters so I can give back to the community that has given me so much. I am getting my Muchness back.
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    Hmmmm. This is an interesting discussion. Muchness is Blogworthy. I think this will be today's topic!
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    Posted 04-11-2010 at 04:30 PM by Sandra Bostwick Sandra Bostwick is offline
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    Sandy, there are several different people inside me. I know that sounds like the confession of a schizophrenic but it's true. There's the mother first and foremost, the advocate, the student, the friend, the pet owner etc... I have to juggle all this every day but I find that if allow myself to take a step back and say I'll do what I can and the heck with what doesn't get done (it'll be there tomorrow) I'm ok.
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    Posted 04-12-2010 at 12:58 PM by Christine43 Christine43 is offline
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    Christine, you really have a BIG job, especially the advocate part.

    (For those just tuning in, CHristine is the Mom of a child with autism and is struggling to get the proper services.)

    Being the mother of a student with special needs, especially in THIS economy, is a real full time job. You have to be lawyer, mediator, fighter, case manager, advocate, in addition to being a Mom.

    One of the perks of my job is that I get to deal with parents just like you. I find them to be inspirational, strong, and I am amazed at how they never shy away from going to bat for their children.
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    Posted 04-12-2010 at 03:32 PM by Sandra Bostwick Sandra Bostwick is offline

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