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[Melissa1214]

My grandma passed away unexpectedly in March and every so often I find myself missing her. I'm generally not a crier, but I've cried more in the last 4 months than I have for a very long time. She was the most amazing woman and the best grandma anyone could ever ask for. She was diagnosed with Lupus about 12 years ago, but she still went strong. My grandparents lived (grandpa still does) in Florida, about 1 1/2 hours from Disney, so they were our touring buddies. They were married for 60 years and my grandpa celebrated his 80th birthday just 3 days after she passed. They had a relationship like no one I've ever met. They loved each other in a way I can only dream of. She had a way of knowing when I'd had a really bad day and would just call out of the blue to talk. I miss that more than I ever thought I would. My grandpa left on Sunday to go back to Florida after being here for nearly 2 months, so I'm sure that's part of why I'm so emotional. I just wonder when it gets easier. I know I'll never stop thinking about her, but I really wonder if the day will come when I don't cry when I think about her.

[TxDisMom]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My father passed away in 1992 and I still think of him often, but now it's more wistful than anything, like I wish he'd been able to meet my husband or see my kids.

I know it is hard, REALLY hard, but even though right now it might seem like you'll never come to terms with it, you will. I am not sure that we ever 'get over' the death of a loved one, but we definitely get THROUGH it.

[lukeandbrookesmom]

Originally Posted by TxDisMom

I'm so sorry for your loss. My father passed away in 1992 and I still think of him often, but now it's more wistful than anything, like I wish he'd been able to meet my husband or see my kids.

I know it is hard, REALLY hard, but even though right now it might seem like you'll never come to terms with it, you will. I am not sure that we ever 'get over' the death of a loved one, but we definitely get THROUGH it.

My sentiments exactly!

[simbarel]

My mother died in 1985 when I was 12 and she comes to mind every single day, still. Whenever I'm having a hard time getting through something I think of the phrase "this, too, shall soon pass" and it does. Even though I think of my mom, it's rare that I cry about her or her loss. Your grandma sounded like a great lady, how lucky you are to have enjoyed her warmth.

[Figmentlvr427]

I'm so sorry about your Grandma. My Grandma died on Easter this year, the day before my birthday. I think of her very often and cry when I remember certain things we did together. Like she always watched "The Young and the Restless" and during that I always ate a garden tomato salad and vegtable soup from Campbell's when I think of it I cry. The other night while watching the primetime Family Fued they were talking about card games and they said "Old Maid". I used to have Garfield playing cards and my Grandma and I used to play "Odie Maid" together in her living room. I'm getting chocked up now just thinking about it. I miss her so much. She was sick with Parkinsons disease for quite a while and the left side of her body was shut down. So she's at peace now. I didn't get to say goodbye though and I miss her so much. I know how you feel. Believe me. I know. I'm here if you want to talk about it.

Just an FYI: after writing this I cried, again. One day it will get better. It takes a different amount of time for everyone to heal. We just aren't there yet.

[Nimros]

Bless your heart - what a wonderful grandma you had!! I would have given anything to have a grandma that I loved so much.

You'll always remember her....and miss her. Things will get less weepy as time moves on; you'll probably laugh and smile when you remember her, and cry less often.

Have you thought about making some sort of memento or scrapbook of your grandma's life?

to you and your grandpa.

[MBUS]

My grandmother died several years ago, but I am really missing her today. Every 3rd of July throughout my childhood we had a cookout at my grandparents house. We had a small family cookout tonight, and it was nice, but it made me miss her and my grandfather. I think of them often, but today hit me harder than usual.

It will get easier for you, and it helps to remember the good times. I like to think about how lucky I was to have had her in my life for so long.


Beth

[revral]

*Sigh* I lost my grandmother in September 2004, my grandfather in May 2005, my great uncle (grandmother's brother) in April 2006, and a friend in June 2006. I can honestly say that it does get easier and the tears do for the most part stop. You still miss them but the pain dulls and fades. I still get teary if I watch anything with Fred Astair in it; my grandmother loved his movies. It's still a little strange to walk in to various rooms and see my grandparents bookcases and china cabinet or open a drawer in their dresser and be able to pull out my grandmother's Shirley Temple doll or look in the china cabinet and see my grandmother's porcelain birds or my great granparents silver.

[Colexis Mom]

[Teresa]

You poor thing. I'm so sorry for you. DH's Mom died unexpectedly 15 years ago last May, 3 weeks before our first DD was born. There is not a time I don't miss her. Barb was wonderful! She accepted my DD into her family and loved her just as she loved her "own" Grandkids.

It does get easier, though. We miss Barb, and we talk of her on occasion, but we no longer cry. There will always be a part of you missing her, but it does lessen. You just have to give it time and let yourself grieve. THere are grief support groups you can join, and you can talk to your Grandpa.

[oldmom]

We had an awful couple of years, losing 8 family members in just 2 years--aunts, uncles, father-in-law and finally my mom and dad. The pain eventually lessens but you will miss them. Sometimes the memories aren't as sharp as you remember them. It gets better, give it time.

[rescuesk]

It does get easier. My Mom passed away in March 1989, and I miss her every day. Some days, I will see something that was hers and get very emotional over it, but most days, I smile thinking of the legacy of good things that she left me.

[bitterchickey]

The tears do lessen.....the smiles come more often.....you will always miss them, you just learn how to deal with it in different ways.

[thrashers09]

I am sorry about your loss. Some days are better than others. Go at your own pace, don't let anyone tell you anything about time to get over it, move on blah blah blah!! Take your time, no one knows how bad you hurt, so they can't really tell you when it is time to move on!! My Dad passed away Dec 21, 2001 from lung cancer and it still hurts bad sometimes!!!
Sometimes a song, something that I read in a book-even someone on tv that may look like him sets me off to crying again!!! I just look up to Heaven and say, "stop it Dad-that's not funny , I know u r up there looking after us"!! One time I was looking in my hope chest-something that I hadn't done in YEARS , and there was a birthday card in there from him and a funny little saying that he always said only to me, boy was that hard!!!! I cried and cried for a long time-but then I got to laughing too , I was remembering that little saying and all the fun birthdays I had-so I was ok after a bit.
It gets really hard around holidays, his birthday, my parents anniversary-but I just try to remember all the great times we had and what a great Dad he was and that will somehow get me through. With him passing away right at Christmas (which was his favorite holiday) it gets REAL hard-it isn't the same anymore and Mom feels it too, but we know he would want us to enjoy it just like if he was here, so we do our best.
Hang in there, remember all the good times you had with her, what a great, strong lady she was and you will find yourself smiling before you know it . I wish you well.

[Joanne929]

I lost my Nonna in 1997 and there are still some days that when I think of her, a tear comes to my eye! The sadness you feel will not be as difficult over time, and hopefully your sad thoughts will be replaced with good thoughts - that's what I try to do when I feel sad missing my Nonna.