Would you mind if I vented about my SIL? Uggh About This Page:

[Happymommy]

I need to vent, because I so badly want to get in touch and say something not so nice, and I know I can't do that--- so I know I'd feel better if I vented a little (sorry)

I'll preface this by saying SiL and I have a strained relationship. She was very upset about both of my pregnancies--- it wasn't just my perception, she told people this including friends and my FIL and MIL. DS#1 ruined her wedding because he was due 3 weeks before, and DS#2's birth was unfair to her own son because he was born 6 months later-- but her son deserved his own year--- it wasn't fair that he didn't have his own communion year and graduation year, and my son takes away from her son's attention. I was offended both times, and I guess I haven't really gotten past it because she treats my sons like they're nuisances rather than nephews.

So my SIL and BIL wanted my DH to do some electrical work in their house (for free--- which is totally fine, he always does work for free for friends/family). But they wanted him to come last night. He couldn't because I had to take my pharmacology exam online, and he needed to keep the kids entertained so I could finish studying and go into the den and take it uninterrupted. They asked if he would still come last night, he could bring the kids and they would give them dinner (my kids coudl play with their cousins). We thought, wow that's so nice, and he said ok.

DH got there at 5:05 (he came home from work, picked up the kids, and they went right there), went right to work, and didn't see the kids until 9pm when it was time to go. I finished my exam right before they got home. When they walked in my 5yo was crying for food and orange juice--- I thought he was just tired because he was really out of sorts. I asked my oldest what they had for dinner, and he said that his aunt and uncle and cousins had already finished dinner by the time they got there, so she just gave them goldfish and a glass of milk. I was really mad, they hadn't eaten since lunch (except for a couple goldfish and it was 9:15 at night). DH ran out and got them a pizza from our favorite pizza shop because he felt so bad. How could someone do that to two little boys? I just don't understand. It was almost 10pm by the time these poor little boys ate---they woofed down that pizza in about 10 minutes. I even called DH right before he left BIL's and reminded him to thank them for giving the boys dinner. I'm so mad. I hope they're satisfied that they got their electrical work done. DH figured they wouldn't offer him anything to eat, but he didn't think they wouldn't give the kids anything. They couldn't have waited one more night so the kids could have stayed home? I had spaghetti and meatballs ready to cook for them for dinner, I just needed time after dinner to work on my test, but they told Joe to bring the kids so he could get to work on it right away. I'm not going to mention it to anyone, but I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening, I do feel a little better now that I got that out.

[Huntermom]

I don't know what to say. Hopefully, your SIL is one of a kind. It's one thing to be rude and inconsiderate to adults, but to little boys. I think her behavior is also neglectful.

Diane

[whoSEZ]

Wow, Dina. Your poor little guys! Is there any chance it was a misunderstanding? I would sooooo hate to think it was intentional.

[lauren-roxy]

Those poor boys. I would be furious too.

[Happymommy]

DH is trying to believe it was just a misunderstanding, and I guess it could have been a misunderstanding (maybe) which is why I won't mention it. But they said bring the kids over for dinner? And, then it's weird that they ate and cleaned up really fast before he got there at 5pm, knowing they were getting there at 5--- but even so if I had my two nephews walk in at 5:00 and they were going to be there for 4 hours--- I think I would ask them if they had eaten, just to be sure. Oh well. The boys are over it, so I know I need to just get over it too. Thanks for listening though !!!!! If I tell my mom, she'll just get more mad then she already gets about everything else I tell her. I do feel better now that I've gotten it out

[CelticChick]

Sorry to ask, but what is "goldfish" as I have not heard of that over here in our pond!!!!

I can't believe your SIL said to bring the boys for dinner and then did that. When my sister comes for lunch with her girls or is here early evening, I just make them lunch/dinner without asking, becasue I would not sit my children down to eat and not give them anything. :

[CinderAbby]

I have a SIL like that. Ever since she found out Abby is Autistic she basically ignores her (me and Lenny too for that matter) and I think SIL has told the kids to keep away too as Abby's cousins don't play with her anymore. Because of this and a few other things, the only way I refer to my brothers family is my brother, his wife and their kids (or Abby's cousins). The kids don't treat me like an aunt so I don't treat them or refer to them as my nieces and nephews.

[Shell_of_the_South]

Sounds like a case of the green-eyed monster coupled with selfish, self-centered people. I cannot imagine having children in my home without offering them something to eat. Heck, I offer any visitor something to eat or drink! Hope they are enjoying their free electrical work

[TMWIlson7196]

Thats terrible that your sil would do that. I would never be able to keep my mouth shut. I would have called her right then and let her have it.

[Happymommy]

Originally Posted by CelticChick

Sorry to ask, but what is "goldfish" as I have not heard of that over here in our pond!!!!
:

They're little orange crackers in the shape of a goldfish

[my2girls]

[Colexis Mom]

Wow Dina Tons of pixies

[krisk11]

I wouldn't say anything either as it probably won't do any good but next time they ask for something I wouldn't go out of my way to help them either. Glad the boys got their favorite pizza to make up for no dinner.

[wheatenwalker]

Thats just plain mean!

[tinker_me_happy]

I would send her a bill for the work he did. Of course you wouldn't REALLY expect her to pay it (it would be a misunderstanding after all!!!). See what kind of response you get then! She is just a MEAN spiteful horrible person. Remember that next time she asks for any kind of favor. And WHO FINISHES dinner BEFORE 5pm???????