GRRRRR. Ready to strangle mystep-d!!! kinda long - UPDATED in Reply 9/14 About This Page:

[Rainbowy]

Originally Posted by NanaTink

What you said about SO calling the shots....that scares the heck out of me! Especially with her not talking to you now.

I agree! Its not good that someone like him is in control.

Originally Posted by llgmommy

Even if I was mad at my parents I would never not let my daughter take that trip. What great grandparents you are for paying for the trip. Hopefully she will come to her sinces.

I agree. What a great memory you will create for your grandkids.

I am wondering, I mean I assume this Step-daughter of yours is your husbands daughter from a previous marriage.?. If so, could he possibly talk some sense into her? Or perhaps he could intervene, and get the SO to back off a bit? It is a tough situation, so sorry.

[MBUS]

Beth

[klositis]

Yes shes my dh's daughter from previous marriage, but we had custody. Im just a nervous wreck, all I can think about is those babies faces if they(she) tells them the trip is off. And who KNOWS what actually will be said to them if she wont let them go. If shes mad and hes mad then I can just hear the conversation if they tell them they cant go. " Mimi and Papaw did something bad and now we just dont think its safe for yall to go" This is a quote that I know would be used as it has been used before to suit her needs and not make her completely look like the bad guy. In her estimation of bad is anything from telling her NO about something or just not agreeing with her at all. Keep those pixies coming. I will update later when I know something for sure.
10 days from leave time and they pull this crap

[mcc0313]

I hope you can get in touch with her and that she lets the kids go...

[jenifermg0]

Originally Posted by Rainbowy

II am wondering, I mean I assume this Step-daughter of yours is your husbands daughter from a previous marriage.?. If so, could he possibly talk some sense into her? Or perhaps he could intervene, and get the SO to back off a bit? It is a tough situation, so sorry.

I was thinking the same thing, maybe your DH would have better luck getting your StepD to talk to him and find out what is going on.
I also agree with a previous poster, the SO sounds very SCARY!!!! Hopefully your StepD will come to her senses and chuck him out on his ear!!! It is so sad to see people in this situation - especially when there are children involved. Sending you lots and lots of .

[chezp]

[lauren-roxy]

[lazanya]

[FanOfMickey]

[minemoz1]

I hope your grandchildren are able to go.

However, I feel you need to step back from the situation as they want to punish you for what happened to the SO. They know what buttons to push and they're pushing them. While you want the Gkids to go with, if she feels that the kids shouldn't go, then you respect her decision as she is the mom and that is HER choice. (Wether you agree with it or not.) Maybe next time you go to WDW you can take them. She wants the drama, the attention and your distress-don't give it to her. By not getting what she wants from you, she may agree to let them go. Just my opinion. I'm sorry the Gkids will have that environment to grow up in.

[HiddenMickey]

[coffeechef]

Try to keep the 2 situations seperate. What happened at work with SO and the grandkids going to Disney. Don't bring it up the drug test or your feelings about SO. Keep the focus on the trip to Disney with the Grandkids for the Grandkids. As hard as it is to give opinions and feelings about what is going on in their household. Focus only on the Grandkids going with you. Are you close enough to stop over and talk to her and the kids about the plans for departure. You know the kids something to get them more excited about going. Make plans to take the kids a day or two early to your home.. ( that way you have them with you to take care of any last minute changes on the parents part) think in terms of the kids only. Its hard but make them your only focus taking them on this trip, act like the rest has not happened. I have nephews I take with me on trips so I know what it is like to have to deal with similar situations. I ignore what is going on with the Mother ( have no say over it anyway) and focus on the kids in other words " don't fuel the fire on how she lives her life as hard as it may be. How old are the kids? Try to include them in the Disney talk with your Step daughter. pick them up the day before. Go thru their suitcases and make sure they have everything they need, if they don't get it yourself and don't make a big deal out of it. Your Step daughter probably wants to go but the BF is giving his opinion on how she should do things. of course she is going to listen to him til while she is in love. til she starts to think for herself. Of course if he thiks its someone elses fault for his failing a drug test, she will too. until she is strong enough to think for herself. For some folks .. it is always someone elses fault for the choices they make. good luck

[cherylf]

Many for you and your grandkids. I just had the same situation with my (soon to be ex) DIL. It finally worked out but only because her mother told her to let the kids go.

[katspjs]

[simbarel]

I'm nervous for you and those poor kids!