Exasperated w/ 23yo DD, is there anything that can be done??? About This Page:

[graygables]

She got the drama queen gene from my mother. Woe is me. You LEFT me behind at the museum (this was 13 years ago, she wandered off and we were one exhibit ahead, no biggie). No one ever tells me anything. I'm just like Cinderella, might as well sleep in the ashes for all anyone cares. I don't have an opinion, it's not like anyone ever listens to me anyway.

I'm really at a loss. We're in the midst of this move and she's being very ugly and using expletives that would have had her sucking on soap just a few years ago. She's yelled at me for not helping. I drove an extra 1,000 miles to pick up 1/2 a trailer-full of their stuff, not to mention loading and unloading it by myself 3 times, including into the new place. I've made trips and have helped as much as I can after I get off work and I'm not "helping"?

Does anyone have to deal with a child (even an adult "child") who blames you for everything? She's constantly trying to lay on the guilt and I'm just not feelin' it which makes her angry. It's as though I'm supposed to wallow at her feet begging forgiveness for these things that just don't even matter anymore (and that I already apologized for when I learned of her perception of the situations). It's as though she's "stuck" and can't grow up and take responsibility for herself. I know she's got Asperger's, but I've not seen this kind of behavior addressed in any of the reading I've done about it.

[ilovedisney247]

First let me say that I am sorry you are having such a hard time. Second . . . it is time for her to grow up. This may sound awful, but at 18 I left home to go to college and have asked for very little from my parents since then. Your daughter is a grown up, its time that she take some responsibility for HERSELF!

[dworldluver]

Sorry too that you are experiencing this with dd. Our 24 yo dd lives at home still but is not our drama queen. Ours is 30 and pregnant with her 2nd. She tends not necessarily to blame me for everything but being very vocal in her belief that the world hates her and she is never able to get a break. She went to college had a great job before she hooked up with DGS's father and then everything slowly slipped away and her little outbursts of high school became major meltdowns. We have tried to help in past and hoped that her helping her grandmother who had experienced a stroke a couple of years ago would make her a little less self-absorbed. Which it did at first but as my mother became stronger and able to do more on her own and her son in 1st grade she is convinced that her anger is because everyone is out to "make her angry".

We do have respites and going to WDW provides that too.

Do you have times that you two get away for lunch or dinner to discuss what is going on with her right now? That has helped with my daughter's outbursts and getting her focused on moving forward.
Hope this helps a little.

[chezp]

I have no words of advice, just

[Danielle Harmon]

Just

[lukeandbrookesmom]

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[JoanW]

We hung a No Drama sign up in the house, along with the No Whining.

I feel for you, coming from a house full of women here (poor Pat never knows who the drama is coming from on a given day).

She's an adult, treat her like one, and expect the same in return. Take no crap or foul language. She's not your child anymore, she's an adult living with you. Treat her like a roommate. That means everyone is responsible for themselves. Except for minors.

Also, she may need to be reevaluated for a side dish of something else in addition to her Aspergers. I'm finding that there are multi-layers in all these ADD/ADHD/Aspergers, and seem to come with more than one diagnosis. Fun times!

[home4us123]

[sparks74]

[shellybelly72]

I really have no advice, my DS 19 is not so much a drama queen, lol- he moved out- because our rules were too much( you know... the get a job and help out around the house...and the no potty mouth around the family)
but he seems to think we owe him something... it's getting fairly old!

[Disney_Scarlett]

I know a few adults like that. It's tough.

[Colexis Mom]

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[wheatenwalker]

Lots of issues there, sounds like- good luck, hope it settles down because thats not a good situation for you and the younger girsl- maybe once she gets it out of her system, she'll be ok???