Update on an old topic....(long) - UPDATED in Post #19 About This Page:

[disneyprincess]

Ok, so remember that "friend" that I posted about a while ago that was going to all different doctors, "thought" that she had all different things wrong with her and then would call the "pregnant friend". Well things have gotten much, much worse. That's to say the least. (On a side note the pregnant friend had her baby....a healthy baby girl) Ok so now onto the other friend. It seems that things in her life have completely fallen apart. Drastically. Over the past couple of months she has gotten severly depressed. She stopped driving completely due to anxiety issues. Has gotten herself into a eating disorder and on top of that has admitted to trying to commit suicide. Yup, you read that right.

She has been in contact with both myself and other friend. After going to many, many doctors. Chiropractors, endochronoligist (sp?), regular docs, etc. She's been told she has everything from Epstein Bar, to anxiety to scoliosis (sp?) She seems to latch on or did to whatever she believed at that time. Then that doctor would be the best thing and no one else knew anything. She got real into her church. (not saying that's a bad thing) but if you knew her it was a shock. We believe that she was trying desperatly to find someone or something to help her. She finally has come to the realization that she is depressed. After many, many conversations that both myself and other friend tried telling her that she needed to see someone and that she in fact was depressed. She had all the symptoms and we tried to point that out to no avail. Oh, keep in mind that she has a three yr old daughter and that her DH doesn't really give a rats ass because he is just not there supporting her or telling her she needs help or anything to the matter. When we ask her "What does _____ think?" she gets all defensive and says she doesn't want to talk about it.

So fast forward to this past week. She call me on Thursday and asks if I can watch the baby for her. Her parents were coming down and she needed to talk to them. I say yeah, sure. She didn't sound good at all & I knew something was up. She calls back no less than a minute later and says never mind I will just have my MIL watch her. Ok, whatever but I called DH and told him. He, her DH and friends DH all work together. I told him something didn't sound right and that I think her DH should be there with her. On Friday she calls friend and is crying and tells her that she is going to be going to stay at her sisters and that her sister will take care of her 3yr for a while. Her dad was going to take her to a doctor and she didn't know when she would be back or if she could call anyone where ever she was going. This friend called me and told me all this then shortly after she called herself and basically said the same thing. The parents and her load up the parents van with blankets, pillows, suitcases, etc. She leaves. Sat. I see the van back and the dad helps her out of the van into the house. Now she's in pj's!!!! Apparently she had a breakdown. Sunday friend w/baby and her DH come over our house. Other friend's DH comes over and is talking to my DH in the garage. (sorry if this is confusing) DH mentions that friends are coming over whatever....he goes home and apparently tells her. She then appears over here (they live next door to me) with 3yr old and presents for friend's new baby. I look at her and she says "do you still love me???" I'm like what?????? I was pissed to say the least....I told her she owed me and friend an explination. We are confused and that we don't get what she's doing. One day she's calling us and crying and saying she's going away and the next she's here like nothing is wrong! (Ok I know that that was the wrong thing to do and I should have been a little kinder) She went to see a psychiatrist on Tuesday (which she said she was gonna do) Her dad took her. The doc said she had anxiety, severe depression and eating disorder. He wanted to put her on meds and wanted to see her the next day. She didn't go yesterday like she was supossed to. Don't know if she's taking the meds. She looked into herself a place in Virginia that treats women and girls. I think its called Rehumada? Anywho the last I heard was that she called them and was waiting to hear from them today about being able to go there for treatment. I don't think this is the right place for her (I checked it out online....googled it) and friend spoke very briefly with her today and all she would say was that she didn't want to talk about it.

To give you an example of the DH in all this. He had been speaking to co-workers all along about trading his motorcycle in for a bigger one. Dang if (putting it in nice terms) Tuesday he didn't go out and buy a bigger bike!!!!!! Yeah, your really in tune with your wife there! Oh and today he took her to the DMV to renew her DL because hers apparently expired!!!!

So if you've read this far, thank you. I guess what I'm asking is that everyone send pixies that she gets to go away and get help. I think the crux of her problems is her marriage. Until she realizes this she will not get better. I feel horrible for her and wishes that she gets help. She is desperately crying out for it.

Thanks....

[Teresa]

Poor lady - sounds like she desperately needs help. Have you reminded her that you and your family and other friend care for her, and that her DD NEEDS her? I hate to admit it, but years ago, I was desperately sad and thought about suicide. The only thing that kept me from doing it was the thought that my DD would end up with her father (we were split at that time, and he was an absentee father). Your friend needs a little tough love, and a little plain love, and a swift kick in the pants.

I hope she gets some help - and that she gets it quickly!

[Kaileemb]

I agree she does need help. However that is easier said then done. Has your husband tried to talk to her husband?? Have you tried to talk to any family members of hers? What I would be concerned about is the health of her DD. How long has she been like this? You said her DD is only 3, just going out on a whim but it seems like she truly is depressed and is desperatly crying out for help (even if it may seem annoying). I would just try and be there for her, but if you have any thoughts that the daughters health is at risk I'd try to talk to someone and take it a step further. Many

[disneyprincess]

Has your husband tried to talk to her husband?? Have you tried to talk to any family members of hers? What I would be concerned about is the health of her DD. How long has she been like this? You said her DD is only 3, just going out on a whim but it seems like she truly is depressed and is desperatly crying out for help (even if it may seem annoying).

Well DH really doesn't care for her DH and has to work with him as well. He has made some pretty rude statements to DH about work at times. DH is his boss. As for talking to family members. No but they are there on a daily basis. On top of it her father has drinking issues and the mom well lets just say he didn't treat her right. It was apparently not a good childhood for her. Yes, she is desperately crying out for help, but whenever myself or friend try to speak to her about it she always says "she can't talk about it or she just can't do whatever it is.....we both think that a lot of this has to do with her DH and his controlling.

[eff051102]

I think right now someone (like her sister) needs to step in and take the DD
before something happens to her. Here are pixies....mainly for the DD but also
for your friend.

[Kaileemb]

I didn't realize your husband was her husbands boss, that makes it even more difficult! I am sorry you have to deal with this more coming your way for you and your family. I hope everything works out it can be very stressful when one or ones family is unwilling to fully get the right help. Keep us posted!

[Cam22]

[cmhand30]

[Colexis Mom]

[lauren-roxy]

[DisneyFanAnn]

[chelle89]

[Christine43]

Someone needs to intervene and get her some help because she doesn't sound stable enough to do it herself, she sounds extremely depressed. I'm very concerned about the suicide attempt too. There's a really good chance she could try it again. Can you talk to her parents about getting her an in treatment evaluation at a hospital? Generally, if someone attempts suicide or has suicidal ideation the ER will send them to wherever has a bed available but if she already knows of a place (you mentioned before) maybe the parents can speak up on her behalf and express how dire this is. I wish her all the luck there is and you're a good friend looking for help for her.

[Disneydiana]

[mcc0313]