Dad and stepmonster forgot my DS AGAIN! About This Page:

[fluffybunny]

Every single year they either forget totally about my son at Christmas and on his birthday or he receives something 2 weeks late. Once again it happened. He's the oldest grandchild but once my sister had kids (out of all my siblings I am the least popular, her children are at the top and then my sister is above me) my son was no longer needed. It got worse once her son had a child. Even my sister's kids were pushed to the side. A week and a half ago my stepmonster texts me and asks for our email address and home address. We've lived her for almost 5 years and they don't know my address. My stepmonster said she was going to order my son a gc and have it emailed. Not much effort involved in that. Every single year.

[HiddenMickey]

I'm sorry for your son and for you. Just make sure he knows it isn't about who he is, but who she is.

You might want to talk to your Dad about it. If he's leaving the gift giving to her, he may not know what all goes on. He might want to take care of buying for your son in the future. Hope so!

[Teresa]

I'm sorry your own father does/allows that. DH's dad and step-mother don't treat HIS grandkids (my kids and nieces) as well as they do HER grandkids, but at least it's fairly across the board on our side of the family. They don't exclude one child over another.

[Kynna]

I'm sorry. I agree that you should talk to your Dad. I was a child in a similar situation and I learned quickly not to feel hurt by it but that there are certain people you can count on and certain ones you couldn't. They are forging thier relationship with your son even if it is a lack of one.

Also take cues from your son, be careful not to project your feelings about the situation on to him. I remember being more concerned that my Mom was upset than about the gift or recognition. I started making excuses for people at 8 years old in an attempt to keep the peace.

[home4us123]

[simbarel]

I'm sorry to read this, there is just no excuse.

[greentie]

That must be very difficult to go through as a mother

[lazanya]

[Huntermom]

I think the best you can do is try to let it go. It is not worth the toll it will take on you. It is bothering you a lot more than it bothers her.

My kids are young adults, but this year my ex didn't bother to even email or call our middle son on his birthday. He called DD on Christmas, whined he wasn't feeling well, and then didn't call her or either of the boys back. No card, gift or email. Their response was "that's dad." I talk to my kids every day and get so much from them. Him, not so much, but it's his choice. It's not worth any of us getting upset over.

[Colexis Mom]

[rescuesk]

That stinks.

[FanOfMickey]

That really does stink

[Cam22]

[DrDolphin]

[Charlie97]

Sorry for your troubles. From a father's point of view, my kids came first, then DGF and her son. DGF knows this, and seems to have a bit of a prob with it, but understands that it is the same w/her and her son. In my opinion, I feel everyone else follows after that. I enjoy my kids, and love to have them around. When they are with me, there is a lot more joking around, playfulness, and less tension. I wish I could keep them forever, but they do need thier mother also.

Chin up, and I have always believed that if a part of the family distances themselves from the rest, then that is thier loss. They lose out on the memories and what not that the rest of the family gets to experience together