Dh and I - facing our fears About This Page:

[Teresa]

Well, it's been a record couple of days for DH and I. We each faced some fears and came out of it okay.
For me, it was finally getting back out on our boat. I didn't even realize it until we went yesterday (with me thinking the whole time we needed to cancel our excursion), but I've avoided the boat all summer. DH and the kids have gone out on it a few times, but I've always come up with something else I had to do. Getting on it and putting it on the water yesterday was hard - that's when it hit me: I didn't want to get on the stinkin' thing because my daddy died after falling off a boat! (last October). Once I faced my fears, I had a great time with DH, DD Lauren, DD's friend, and a family friend. I even rode the tube for quite a while, and now I'm sore as all get out, probably due in part to the cartwheel I am told I did when I fell off the tube!

Today DH called CPS and talked to them extensively about our grandkids. He's been trying to get up the courage to do it for, well, honestly, for 4 years. This year's experience with the grandkids and then our reception at his son's place kind of kicked it into critical. Still, with all that it took him over a week to get himself to where he could do it. DH was shaking and asked me to sit with him the whole time, but he did it! I know how hard it is to make that call on people you just barely know, let alone how difficult it must be to call on your own son! I was surprised they gave DH a reference number and told him he could call for updates. He did tell them that if it were decided it was in the kids' best interest to be removed, we would take them.

[Huntermom]

I am glad you got on the boat and had a good time but I am thrilled your DH decided to call and advocate for his grandchildren. Those poor children sounded like they desperately needed someone to speak up and push on their behalf. Please encourage him to keep it up, even if the system seems unresponsive at first. As someone who has worked with the child welfare system for many years, squeaky wheels will eventually be addresses.

[B.M.]

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[CinderAbby]

I too am happy for both of you facing your fears but I can't tell you how glad I am that your hubby did indeed call CPS. I've been wondering since you last posted how that went. I'm sure it wasn't easy but those kids need a chance at a normal home life and you've set that possibility in motion.

[notjustamom]

Hearty congratulations to you both! I applaud your DH for making the call today, I can't even imagine how difficult that was for him. Give him a high five for me

[kmurburg]

Good job both of you! So glad your DH called CPS and very wonderful that you agreed to have the grandkids stay with you all if need be!

[joelsmom]

Good for both of you! Continued best wishes on the situation with the kids.

[Cheriemek]

Hugs to you and your DH!

[JoanneS]

Congratulations to you both. I can't even imagine how difficult that call must have been to make. Good luck to you both.

[dutchdisneyfamily]

What you both did took a lot of courage! Congrats to you for not allowing fear to get in the way of fun family time. Good for your husband standing up for his grand kids. I hope things work out well and they can get the help they need.

[PhilsEagles08]

It's been a big few days for you guys! Hang in there, you're doing the right thing!

[Luvsun]

What you both did took so much courage!
Congratulations to you both on taking very big and hard steps to doing what is needed!!!

[lauriep]

I can't even imagine how hard all this has been, but it does sound like you really are doing the right thing for the children and for your own peace of mine.

[GATechGal]

Teresa, you guys are just an unbeatable team. A true balance that supports the other. Way to go.

[Cam22]

Congrats to you both!