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[RobinKay6573]

Dad woke up in the early morning of July 24th. Mom took him to the ER at Celebration Hospital ourside Orlando. After a CAT scan they discovered he had a bleed in his brain. He was moved to Florida Hospital where they did surgery on July 25th to put in drains to releave the pressure. Apparently before the surgery he had a stroke. He is only 66 and was perfectly fine except for headaches he had been having (that he didn't tell mom about).

I went down there and spend a week with my mom and my sister. Dad could open his eyes and did react to some stimuli. It was so sad to see such a strong man laying there. I remembered how my ex-husband was so afraid of him because his hands are so big. That made me laugh. Just two months ago we were celebrating my birthday with Pluto... now he is dying.

We decided to discontinue any support. His new doctor said there is really no hope of him every coming home. The choice was alot easier then I thought it would be... that sounds bad. He has a living will so he "told" us what he wants. I have not posted this on facebook and I have told very few. I just really need some passporter buddy hugs. You guys are always so good at that. If you have any advice from that that have been in this situation please share. I will need all the help I can get.

This is dad just 2 months ago at a picnic for my sister's 1st graders:

[MsPeggySue911]

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Your dad is a handsome man.

I went through something similar with my mom 10 years ago and she died when she was 58. It's devastating. If you are even close to him at all it will change your life to lose him. I hate to hear of anybody going through it. It hurts my heart and reminds me of what I went through with my mom.

They told me my mom had inoperable cancerous brain tumor and as it turns out she only had a brain bleed that if they had diagnosed properly to begin with she might have been able to be saved. It's torture knowing that.

[my2girls]

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[RobinKay6573]

Originally Posted by MsPeggySue911

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Your dad is a handsome man.

I went through something similar with my mom 10 years ago and she died when she was 58. It's devastating. If you are even close to him at all it will change your life to lose him. I hate to hear of anybody going through it. It hurts my heart and reminds me of what I went through with my mom.

They told me my mom had inoperable cancerous brain tumor and as it turns out she only had a brain bleed that if they had diagnosed properly to begin with she might have been able to be saved. It's torture knowing that.

Thank you! We have doubts about my dad's care when he got to the hospital in Orlando. I won't go into it... but the stroke should have never happened. We will never know I guess that is what is killing me inside.

I am close with my dad... we are very much alike. I understand him and he always understood me. Their home is so quite... it is spooky. You're right life will be very different.

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[JoanneS]

Oh, Robin, I'm so sorry. Sending lots of : pixie:

[GinnyMouse]

I'm so very sorry for you and your family. Losing someone you love is always hard, but I think it's especially devastating when the loss is so unexpected and the person was so alive and vibrant.

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[Carousel96]

I'm so sorry! You're always too young to lose a parent.

[wmanderson]

I am so sorry. I have been there myself. Ten years ago, my father's lungs, heart and kidneys failed due to lung cancer, congestive heart failure and the medications for all the associated symptoms. He died three times on the way to his hospital of choice, where he had a standing do not resuscitate order. My brother had him moved to another hospital and placed on a ventilator. He was heavily medicated, almost to the point of coma. The doctors told us there would be moments of lucidity but he would never live without the vent, let alone come home. It took six long weeks to convince my mom to take him off the vent. It was the right thing to do.

It is not bad that this choice was easier than you thought it would be. It means you are not in denial about the situation. It also means you know it your heart what he wants, and love him enough to allow it.

My heart and thoughts are with you in the difficult time.

: pixie:

[shnewell]

I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this. It must be very stressful and upsetting. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but all I can offer is


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[DawnK]

Karen I am so sorry. I lost my best friend this way. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!!!!! Lots of hugs!!!