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03-27-2005, 10:42 AM
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| | Living Seas wannabe
Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Jacksonville, FL Concierge Level: 7
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| BF advice....
OK - here is the situation. As EVERYONE here knows - Scott and I have been dating since Dec 2, 2004 -- we are approaching 4 months together and 5 months since our first date. We spend every evening together and eat dinner together unless I am on travel or he is in Palm Beach for the new shop.. and we spend the entire weekend together...
That being said -- he says he does not know how he feels about me. ???? He says that "I enjoy our time together" -- but can not put into words how he feels.... I am not sure if this is because he comes from a family that does not describe their emotions (dad, Scott, Jeff and Mom - he says that "I love you" was not commonly heard around the house) or if, he just has no clue how he feels... which has me a wee bit worried.
I know that I want to be with someone that loves me like I love them... I know I love Scott. No question there (and I have told him that), but to have him say he does not know how he feels about me upsets and worries me a great deal.
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03-27-2005, 10:59 AM
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Terri from what I read, Scott seems to really care about you. I told Allan I loved him after we had been together six months but he didn't answer me back in the same way. I don't think men are as vocal with their feelings as we women are. He does tell me he loves me now but it took him nearly two years to be able to say it. Now he tells me every single day that he loves me. I think it's very hard for them to say it that first time.
I would hang in there, it sounds like you have a good relationship and it's still early days. Just have fun, everything else will follow.
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03-27-2005, 11:11 AM
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| | French Vanilla Cool Whip Community Rank: Legend 
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I would hang in there, it sounds like you have a good relationship and it's still early days. Just have fun, everything else will follow.
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Good advice. We're all rooting for you!!       | |
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03-27-2005, 11:46 AM
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| Re: BF advice....
Terri,
Here is a 
I know that must be a tough thing to hear. But sometimes coming from a family that is not open with their feelings can be a hard thing to overcome.
Don't give up hope!   | |
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03-27-2005, 01:35 PM
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| | But why is the rum gone?
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I would hang in there, it sounds like you have a good relationship and it's still early days. Just have fun, everything else will follow.
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I agree it may take him some time to be able to openly express how he feels.  | |
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03-27-2005, 02:10 PM
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I would hang in there, it sounds like you have a good relationship and it's still early days. Just have fun, everything else will follow.
Karen
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Good advice. We're all rooting for you!!
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I think that is excellent advice. Your relationship is still very young...give it some time and see how it develops. | |
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03-27-2005, 03:08 PM
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03-27-2005, 04:42 PM
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Hang tight!!! Here's some pixie dust for you!
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03-27-2005, 04:46 PM
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I agree Terri that time is the answer. Guys are afraid to admit their feelings for fear of being hurt. It really does seem as if he cares for you or he would be making excuses not to be with you. You will know if it's not right. | |
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03-27-2005, 05:07 PM
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Here's a different take on the situation, he may have very strong feelings for you and he is "afraid" of them and not sure how to react. Hang tight and give it time | |
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03-27-2005, 05:22 PM
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| | The Original BagMan
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03-27-2005, 05:26 PM
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| | Faith, Trust, Pixie Dust
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Here's a different take on the situation, he may have very strong feelings for you and he is "afraid" of them and not sure how to react. Hang tight and give it time
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This is a possibility also. From everything I have read over the months Terri, it seems that he does have strong feelings for you. Some guys are just unsure how to deal with feelings they perhaps have never had. Men are often also brought not to show emotions. DH was like that also and now he verbalizes his feelings alot. Just hang in there and know we are here for you!  | |
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03-27-2005, 05:54 PM
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03-27-2005, 06:18 PM
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| | power of the pixies
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Terri,
First thing I would ask myself is "How does Scott treat me" does he show his love in other ways ( like driving you to your procedure last month )
My DH is very clammy ( as is mouth SHUT) when it comes to saying I love you but he shows it in other ways..
If you are feeling good in the relationship.. give it time... he'll say it!!!
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Not time to give in yet Terri 
