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[Sandra Bostwick]

May 29th thru June 4th

OK, let's start with the introduction. ANy thoughts on this?

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[stretch2864]

Thanks Sandy! I can't wait to be a part of another book club as it has been awhile!

[DDuff]

I have a long car trip this weekend so hopefully I'll get some time for some Blink.

[MBUS]

Just started it this evening and I'm enjoying it already. I'm looking forward to finishing the first 3 chapters and discussing things.

Beth

[Sandra Bostwick]

The introduction says there are three main objectives:

1: To convince us that decisions made quickly can be as good as those that are made cautiously and deliberately.

2: To be more aware of when we should trust our instincts and when we should be careful of them.

3: To help our snap judgments and first impressions to be more educated and controlled.

HMMMMMMMMMMMMMM! That is a tall order. Do you think achieving those objectives could help you out in everyday life?

As for me, I have to say a big YES!!!!!!!! I happen to have great intuition, but the minute my emotions or my desires get involved, I ignore what I know to be true and start making a mess of things.

I'm also one who loves to move quickly and be dynamic, but I can easily get bogged down in stupid details.

If this book can deliver what it promises, then I think life will go much better for me! We will have to see. I have not read it yet!

[emtpej]

I finally got a copy from the library...

But yes, you want and need a paramedic to make snap judgements. Might save your life one day...
So, it is my job to be judgemental!
But -- if you rely solely on that, you will fail on the training manikins or 'mock' patients as you can't 'read' them the same way as you can a real patient.

[MBUS]

I have been interested in intuition, and it seems like that is sort of what he's talking about. I have started the book and I'm really enjoying it!

Beth

[Sandra Bostwick]

Originally Posted by emtpej

I finally got a copy from the library...

But yes, you want and need a paramedic to make snap judgements. Might save your life one day...
So, it is my job to be judgemental!
But -- if you rely solely on that, you will fail on the training manikins or 'mock' patients as you can't 'read' them the same way as you can a real patient.

That is very interesting. I go alot with my intuition when I treat. I do LOUSY on simulations or role playing. I also have alot of trouble with that occasional client who I have no chemistry with, or who throws up smokescreens so you don't know what they are really about.

[emtpej]

Originally Posted by Sandra Bostwick

That is very interesting. I go alot with my intuition when I treat. I do LOUSY on simulations or role playing. I also have alot of trouble with that occasional client who I have no chemistry with, or who throws up smokescreens so you don't know what they are really about.

I agree. If you are not honest with your therapist (or paramedic) you are really only hurting yourself and delaying your healing. Frustrating for us, though.

[Sandra Bostwick]

I've been thinking, as I read the intro, about how I must appear on first impression. I mean, if it is THAT important, maybe I should think a little more about how I present myself. I like to think that appearance is not important, but according to this book, it may be. Also, there are alot of those non-verbal appearance issues that make a BIG difference.

[Christine43]

I think appearance is important, Sandy. But, probably not in the quick snap judgement way. I think the way you carry yourself and speak is extremely important as this is the way that people will decide how credible you are. I am hoping that this book will help me prepare for nursing school in the fall.

[Sandra Bostwick]

Originally Posted by Christine43

I think appearance is important, Sandy. But, probably not in the quick snap judgement way. I think the way you carry yourself and speak is extremely important as this is the way that people will decide how credible you are. I am hoping that this book will help me prepare for nursing school in the fall.

I noticed your autism awareness ribbon. I think this information can be very important when we coach those on the spectrum about social awareness and picking up on non-verbal cues.

[DDuff]

Originally Posted by Sandra Bostwick

I've been thinking, as I read the intro, about how I must appear on first impression. I mean, if it is THAT important, maybe I should think a little more about how I present myself. I like to think that appearance is not important, but according to this book, it may be. Also, there are alot of those non-verbal appearance issues that make a BIG difference.

My copy of Blink has an interview with the author in the back - That is really what inspired him to write this book. He decided to let his hair grow - in a matter of a short few months he noticed some amazing changes in how he was perceived. If your copy has this I highly recommend that you read it.

I've finished the introduction and am well into the first chapter. I wonder how much of our intuition has been distorted over the past decade in deference to "political correctness." Here is my example and I know it is not PC. When the kids were little, we lived in small town Indiana. At one of the local stores there was a one armed man who worked as a bagger. Although my immediate reaction to him was one of unease (he gave me the willies), I purposefully would choose his lane whenever possible. In my good mother mind, I was trying to demonstrate to my children that disabilities do not matter. Imagine my horror when one summer day I open the newspaper to discover this man had been arrested with a young woman duct taped in the back of his van! I now know that my unease had nothing to do with his disability but instead was probably just a correct reaction of my unconcious that this was a bad man.

I would love to know if it is possible to cultivate our "intuition" while weeding out unconsious prejudice. Can we become more aware of what is ingrained bias and what is true intuition?

[emtpej]

Originally Posted by DDuff

I would love to know if it is possible to cultivate our "intuition" while weeding out unconsious prejudice. Can we become more aware of what is ingrained bias and what is true intuition?

yes

It takes practice and discussion with others that understand what you are trying to do. I think the first step is understanding what your possible biases are. I have worked with both a diverse workforce and a diverse population and am still learning...

I wish we could get some cops in here, too...

[Sandra Bostwick]

Originally Posted by DDuff

My copy of Blink has an interview with the author in the back - That is really what inspired him to write this book. He decided to let his hair grow - in a matter of a short few months he noticed some amazing changes in how he was perceived. If your copy has this I highly recommend that you read it.

I've finished the introduction and am well into the first chapter. I wonder how much of our intuition has been distorted over the past decade in deference to "political correctness." Here is my example and I know it is not PC. When the kids were little, we lived in small town Indiana. At one of the local stores there was a one armed man who worked as a bagger. Although my immediate reaction to him was one of unease (he gave me the willies), I purposefully would choose his lane whenever possible. In my good mother mind, I was trying to demonstrate to my children that disabilities do not matter. Imagine my horror when one summer day I open the newspaper to discover this man had been arrested with a young woman duct taped in the back of his van! I now know that my unease had nothing to do with his disability but instead was probably just a correct reaction of my unconcious that this was a bad man.

I would love to know if it is possible to cultivate our "intuition" while weeding out unconsious prejudice. Can we become more aware of what is ingrained bias and what is true intuition?

That is a really fascinating point. Sometimes our "right intuition" gives us a signal, and we decide it must be due to some "wrong belief", so we ignore it or, WORSE, put ourselves even more in harms way! What you had was a right intuition that you decided must be an inconscious prejudice and you could have really made a dangerous situation for yourself.

I think your stuff...baggage...issues...unresoved conflicts...whatever you want to call it can really clog your intuition antennae. I think that is why I believe it is so important to be self-aware and ruthlessly honest with yourself.

Another bugaboo is emotions. I like the point about the art collector who allowed himself to become emotionally attached to his purchase, to the point that he was unable to make good choices.

I'll have to see if that author bio is in my copy. Sounds intersting!