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Old 10-28-2009, 09:55 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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Am I being selfish?

I have booked a "Keys to the Kingdom" tour for myself for our vacation in December. My DW and DD will probably go "shopping" or visit Blizzard Beach while I'm in the Magic Kingdom.

I have wanted to do something like this since I first visited WDW in 1992, and have finally given in to my curiosity!

But I'm now getting "second thoughts"!!!!

Am I being selfish by deserting DW & DD while I satisfy my curiosity? Should I be spending the money on all of us and not just me? Obviously we can't all go on the tour as DD is only 5 (minimum age is 16) and I wouldn't want her to see "behind the magic" yet anyway.

What would you do?
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Old 10-28-2009, 09:57 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I don't think so -- I ditched my whole Grand Gathering to do Keys to the Kingdom back in 2005 and it's one of my favorite memories.

As long as they have something that they want to do, GO!
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Old 10-28-2009, 10:38 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I completely understand the guilt aspect, but no. Everyone needs a little time to do something they enjoy. Would you feel as guilty if you were going to play a round of golf? I assume from your picture that you've spent money on your daughter to do BBB...which is wonderful, but you deserve a little Disney magic as well. And, it's not like you're deserting your wife and daughter somewhere where there's just nothing to do...it's Disney World! They'll be fine! Girl time is always important anyway.

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Old 10-29-2009, 12:27 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I think that you should do it!! Last year I did the Dolphins In Depth while DH, DD and DS slept in and went swimming. They did not mind bc they knew it was important to me. Both kids were not old enough at the time, they had a blast with DAD.
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We all need to be a little "selfish" sometimes. It is important to have "me" time. If DH wanted to go do something w/out me at WDW, I'd just see it as an opportunity to do something else that he might not be so keen on.
It'll give you all more to talk about during your trip, too - as you can both share what you did while you were apart.
Go for it, and let us know how it turns out
And maybe pick them up a little something from the Confectionary on your way out
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Old 10-29-2009, 01:50 AM   #6 (permalink)
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I can understand your guilt, but why not? It's everyone's holidays and if you want to treat yourself, then I say go for it. It's a superb tour and a great way to spend the time. You'll love it and will regret it if you don't do it.
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That's so sweet of you to think that!!! Do you think your wife will be feeling guilty if she's shopping?? Speaking from experience.... Go, have a great time! You will ALL enjoy it!! Then you can meet up and swap tales.
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I think you deserve Disney magic as much as your DW and DD! Go for it Julian! They need "Mummy and Me" time too!

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No I don't think you are being selfish at all. Go and enjoy!
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Not at all. Go and enjoy!! I'm sure your DW and DD will also.
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Enjoy it, it will give them time to do stuff together whatever it may be...
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If my DH asked to do something like that I would be happy to oblige! It is really hard having 24/7 togetherness if you are not used to it. A break is usually a good idea. I love having special girl time too! If I wanted to do something like that I know DH would support me.
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Enjoy your tour! Then maybe you can swap, and take DD while DW has some "me" time to do something she wants.
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