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[Colexis Mom]

I'm so sorry!!

[amandal]

Well, if you two plan on spending your lives together and if a wedding is on the horizon (which I hope it is ), I feel like the two of you really need to sit down and come to some kind of decision. Even though it will be his life, his job, his carrer, it still affects you. I hate to say the word "ultimaitum (sp)", but if the shoe fits. . . . Let us know how everything works out.

[MyRapunzal]

Originally Posted by Colexis Mom

I'm so sorry!!

Thanks for some more pixies!

Originally Posted by amandal

Well, if you two plan on spending your lives together and if a wedding is on the horizon (which I hope it is ), I feel like the two of you really need to sit down and come to some kind of decision. Even though it will be his life, his job, his carrer, it still affects you. I hate to say the word "ultimaitum (sp)", but if the shoe fits. . . . Let us know how everything works out.

Well, thanks for the advice, but given the circumstances I think its not quite ultimatum material. I never really gave you a full update on the situation. He is def on the same page as me and when we talked this afternoon he wasn't defensive or anything when I said we have to do what needs to be done to get by, even if that means him taking a crap job for a little while. He just feels ashamed, like a failure, more than anything. He had such trouble finding something and was feeling so bad and he really felt like this was a big break (but when there is little work the first one to go is the last one hired apparently). He also responded pretty positively after dinner when we were talking about school, I really think before he can move forward he needs to decide what he wants to do, ya know? So I think thats where he is going to start. But, you know me, I will keep you all updated- probably more updated than you want to be.

[tinkz]

for you & rob! I hope that everything will work out for both of you! I not that it is hard & can be stressful. Hopefully Rob will find a great job that he loves & wants to do for a long time!

[Kenny]

I am saddened by the news... seems like as soon as you get going good, something else happens! We are planning a cruise this fall and in Jan, I fell and broke my knee! While workman's comp paid the bills, I was off work about 10 weeks, which means no vacation pay accumulating for that period. I think we'll be OK, but that certainly means less to play with.
Sometimes life just SUCKS! We try to look at it like "it's just another thing!". Not much you can do about it except keep going.
It doesn't sound like this was Rob's fault, and he's really trying to do his part. I think you have the right attitude, just keep encouraging him, and understand how frustrating this must be for him.
Anyway, things will look up! People are buying new trucks and the trucking industry is the first to pick up after a slow down because companies need to move all their new product. I deliver new trucks and we don't have anyone laid off anymore.
But just in case my theories don't work... a couple of pixies never hurts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey! It's just another thing!!

[KandJluvdisney]

oh mel
I am so sorry
we have been there before and know what is it like
everything will be ok - rob knows what needs to be done and he will do it
hope everything works - pixies galore to you both

[MyRapunzal]

Originally Posted by tinkz

for you & rob! I hope that everything will work out for both of you! I not that it is hard & can be stressful. Hopefully Rob will find a great job that he loves & wants to do for a long time!

Thats my hope as well. I hate that back-to-the-drawing-board feeling

Originally Posted by Kenny

I am saddened by the news... seems like as soon as you get going good, something else happens! We are planning a cruise this fall and in Jan, I fell and broke my knee! While workman's comp paid the bills, I was off work about 10 weeks, which means no vacation pay accumulating for that period. I think we'll be OK, but that certainly means less to play with.
Sometimes life just SUCKS! We try to look at it like "it's just another thing!". Not much you can do about it except keep going.
It doesn't sound like this was Rob's fault, and he's really trying to do his part. I think you have the right attitude, just keep encouraging him, and understand how frustrating this must be for him.
Anyway, things will look up! People are buying new trucks and the trucking industry is the first to pick up after a slow down because companies need to move all their new product. I deliver new trucks and we don't have anyone laid off anymore.
But just in case my theories don't work... a couple of pixies never hurts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey! It's just another thing!!

Thanks! You are so right about how sometimes life just sucks. I always think about this one quote from Good Will Hunting at low times "Bad times wake us up to the good times we weren't paying attention to." Sometimes it takes the bad time to get us to the next good one. And some pixies for your knee- hope all is well

Originally Posted by KandJluvdisney

oh mel
I am so sorry
we have been there before and know what is it like
everything will be ok - rob knows what needs to be done and he will do it
hope everything works - pixies galore to you both

I know, this just feels like dejavu all over again. You are right about Rob- he does know what needs to be done. I am just hoping he doesn't find another decent job and go with it "for now" instead of finding something he could find as a career and take some classes.

[DyanKJ130]

Dyan <----- Thinking positive thoughts for you & Rob!!

[MyRapunzal]

Originally Posted by DyanKJ130

Dyan <----- Thinking positive thoughts for you & Rob!!

Aww thanks. I especially love that its a hug surrounded by pixies!

[MyRapunzal]

So, you guys are amazing!
Thank you so much for the pixies. You guys really know how to keep my chin up!

Rob and I continued our talking and sorting things out today. It looks like he IS going to go back to school. Rob was working on his associates degree last year in criminal justice when we got the news he needed to find a new place to live. And if anyone recalls from my last trips TR, there was a happy ending to that! Me and my fab boyfriend of almost 7 years moved in together!

So now that we made it through that, made it through Rob's last terrible run with jobs that weren't worth his time anyways, and we ended up back where we were in January (if you recall my freaking out from WDW in Spring.... to DLR.... to Cruise.... to postponed WDW). I think its in both of our best interest to finish getting his Associates. If he goes in the summer we will have enough credits to have 2 full semesters done. That means, if he went FT in the Fall and then Spring, a year from now we would be preparing for his graduation! He would have to take some resource loans on top of stafford ones, and thats fine, AND he will have to get a part time job to pay bills, and thats fine to. He is interested in getting into Corrections, I think but since its a criminal justice degree he could take and civil service exam in that field. I don't see any upcoming exam but hopefully by the new year.

In any case, this weekend we are going to do some scheduling and next week will be Rob's mission to find a job (with less requirements than the last job search so I am keeping my fingers crossed.

Now, I am sure you are thinking, who cares? And so how does this relate back to the whole WDW PTR anyways? Well, Rob was a littler nervous about money and said, "Good thing we didn't spend $2000 on a vacation yet, huh?" and I smirked. He said "What?" and I said, "Well the deposit was only $200." And as I gave him a sideway smirk after I said that he said, "Ya know what? We will be fine.... plus I have really been wanting to go back lately!" And, so, of course I was prepared. We watched the episode of "Jon & Kate plus 8" when they took a road trip to Disney World.

So, I guess thats another mini-update for the life of Me, the WDW junkie whose everyday life always ends up back on Disney!
Wish us luck.
More to come.

[Colexis Mom]

Continued pixies for you guys

[amandal]

That was an amazing post!!! He probably knew what he wanted to do all along . . . . My cousin-in-law is in corrections and she loves it. That sounds right up his alley! And now the cat is out of the bag with the vacay! I watched the Jon and Kate episode last night when they go to WDW and it was great to get a small Disney fix! I am soooooo happy for both of you. It was a minor setback that you got over - in what - 2 days!!

[B.M.]

Congrats that everything is now headed in the right direction. I am glad he chose a career path and is going back to school. I am also in school for criminal justice!

[Kenny]

It's all good! And you get to keep on with your PTR!... It's all good!

[mcc0313]

Mel - so glad that Rob is going back to school and following up something that he really enjoys, plus there is so many options with a criminal justice degree...

So glad that he was happy about your "surprise"...a vacation might be just what you both need and definitely once all that course work starts coming in...it will be a great trip and hopefully a celebration for what is to come