Next Tuesday is our 25th anniversary and I'm stuck for what to do. We thought at first we would take our wedding party out to dinner as a celebration, but because it's only 2 days away from Thanksgiving, that won't work for all but 2 of the party. Then, we thought we would go back to where we were married and revisit the day. No such luck: church was closed, priest who married us has died, place where we had our reception is now a private home, place where we had our rehearsal dinner is now a banquet hall only, and place where we spent our wedding night is now part of a university. Thought we could go out to dinner just the two of us, at a nice local restaurant, but it's closed on Tuesdays. Looked at other restaurants for a nice family dinner, but my DS is a vegetarian and I can't find a nice place closeby that has a decent vegetarian option, unless we settle for Olive Garden. Thought about spending a night in an Inn, but because we need to travel to NY to get DD from college the next day, DH doesn't want to travel a lot the day before our NY trip. Thought about a couple spa day, but DH is not into that and even if he was, the closest spa is closed next week. Then looked at getting tickets for a show at the theatre where we met; nope, they are dark that day. My last try was trying to get a small cake at the place where we got our wedding cake, but it's been bought out by Heinz. We honeymooned in WDW and we can't go there until January when our schedules allow for travel. I know we could celebrate on a different day, but I want to celebrate my anniversary on my anniversary. I have this sinking feeling that I'm going to be eating pizza on my 25 anniversary and watching tv. And, I know there are bigger problems in this world and I have no right to complain, but sometimes I just want a little sunshine on me, you know what I mean?
Will there be a show on Monday at the theater or will the nice restaurant be open that night? I'd just celebrate on a different day. I have to do that too. We married the Saturday after Thanksgiving so we are usually at someone else's house on that weekend for the holiday. Sorry it's so complicated.
That is what I was thinking. Going to NY the day before and spending the night around that area, if there is something to do.
Also, I noticed that you started out saying "a dinner just the 2 of us" but then the next sentence says you can't go anywhere bc DS is a vegetarian. This leads me to ask...why can't you and DH go to some other restaurant other than the one closed on Tues or Olive Garden?
Just some suggestions. Otherwise, I'd eat pizza and celebrate big time when you can....like at WDW! I know it's not ideal though, sorry for that.
Can you choose something that you did on your honeymoon and do that then take a trip down memory lane with photos/video of the wedding. Or perhaps ask the kids what they would like to do as a family so you can create new memories...
I'm sorry you haven't found a way to celebrate yet but it will be still special (as long as your DH remembers)!
I think what frustrates me is that everytime I suggest something to DH he tells me why we can't do it. And now, he's in NYC for the rest of the week for work. DH likes to wait until the last minute to do anything and I'm a little annoyed that he hasn't put any thought into this. 25 years is a big deal to me and I'm kind of hurt that he isn't treating it that way. Still no definite plans, but hopefully I'll figure something out. I keep going back and forth with whether to make it a date night or a family night event. Not giving up, though...
Thanks for the understanding. It's nice to have a place to vent.
I hear you. Any chance MacLane can stay home by himself the night before you guys pick up Anastasia? Then you and your DH can leave earlier in the day, travel 3/4 or even all the way there, stop and have a nice dinner and then stay at a nice resort/hotel. I wouldn't ask your DH, since he just comes up with why it won't work. Schedule it and just tell him This is what is happening. Period.
Or, since the dinner before Thanksgiving isn't going to work for everyone, any chance to put it together this weekend? It's a little earlier than your anniversary, but still I think a nice idea.
I'm sorry you're not having any luck. I understand. Our 15th anniversary was less than wonderful, but turned out to be a nice night - and a funny story! I thought I'd leave the planning up to DH. He knew that, but he failed miserably to make any plans. We ended up eating out at the Bonefish Grill (Not a bad thing, but I love crab and lobster, which I'm really allergic to!!). After that, he decided we were going to a movie. Problem is he didn't check the listings for movies we'd LIKE. The only movie playing any time that would fit our schedule? "Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle"!! We were the oldest people in the movie - by about 15 years!! One kid was there, celebrating his 15th b-day. Kind of cool meeting a kid born on our big day. And to think - he's probably just graduated college or should this summer!
I understand your feeling that it would be nice to do something ON THE DAY. I agree with Teresa, can DS stay home and you start your trip out to pick up DD a day early and stay somewhere nice on the way?
DH and I had a long discussion about why I was upset. He's not sentimental at all, but he tried to understand. Since we can't repeat anything we did on our wedding day, we went for a different approach. We can't go to the church where we were married, but we can go to our current church where they will be filling Thanksgiving baskets for the needy in the area. We're going to do that. And since we can't eat where we want to nearby, we're going to the place where we had our first dinner date, Legal Seafood.
Now, that I look back at it, I don't know why I was so upset. Sorry for the whine. And thank you for not telling me I was being a big baby about all of this.