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I need your thoughts. I have went to disney for a week for the past 5 years with my sister. Invited my husband along once and he hated it he wind up flying back early and my sister and I said for rest of week. Well he makes a point of telling me and other people how much he hates disney and anything with disney name on it. He tells me he thinks I'm crazy for spending so much time there. And I know he talks about it behind my back because some has got back to me. Don't get me wrong he's a good man and he's good to me he just doesn't get disney. Even though it would break my heart do I just give up disney trips to please him or what would you do?
I would not let him keep you from doing something you like to do, you would eventually come to resent him for it.
My husband (in the past) never wanted to go with me on my vacations, I went to the beach most of the time. I would just plan my vacation without him.
Then we started going to the races, camped out or go to Daytona, always with his friends, we went to Bike week one time in Daytona, I had a good time too!!
Now we have a 4yr old & went to Disney for the first time in 2011 & are planning on going next month. I know this is a place he is only willing to go because of our daughter, he enjoys seeing the happiness on her face.
I would just invite him to go & when he declines, just go ahead & make your plans & go. Trust me, if you quit doing it because of him, you will resent him eventually.
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I'm not sure I understand why your husband gets upset about your trips to Disney if he doesn't have to go on them? Is that the only vacation that you have time to take each year? If it is, then I would agree with the others - maybe change it up sometimes and go places with him. However, if you take these trips with your sis and are still able to take another vacation with your DH, then he needs to chill. Just because he doesn't like something, doesn't mean you shouldn't be able to enjoy it on your own.
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Do you take trips with him, too, or are your only vacations to Disney with your sister?
Could you cut back the Disney trips to every other year so he doesn't feel like you're spending so much money in one place?
Yea we usually go to the beach every summer for a few days and another small trip to the mountains in fall. These trips usually are 3 or 4 days. He doesn't like to take any longer. He's a workaholic I've thought of the every other year so I wasn't going back till 2014 but don't know if this will satisfy him I think from what I'm hearing from others he wants me to give it up period and that makes me very sad
I'm sorry he's not supporting your love of Disney, and actually belittling it.
What does he like to do on vacation? Have you gone other places together?
I agree with perhaps cutting back on the frequency of trips and maybe the length of them as well. But, I don't think giving up something you love is the right thing to do.
You do need to talk to him about how he's handling the situation though. He doesn't have to like it but talking behind your back is out of line.
I have tried to fine things he likes. A cruise he didn't like that. Took him to disney he didn't like that. Last year we went to beach he said he just didn't like it. All he seems to want to do is work
I think one of the things that bothers him is I pay for the trip. But I work a 40 hour job and I don't buy a lot of stuff like clothes etc instead I save my money. My sister never gets to go anywhere she's disable to work because of health issues and barely survives so it makes me feel good to do this for her. I never take a dime from him I pay for trips myself. With saving change and asking for gift cards for birthday and such. And she does what she can. She'll come clean my house or clean his work shop( he's a mechanic) she try's. but he and I still do things together
If he wants you to give up Disney altogether, then he's the one who needs to rethink things-- someone who loves you would never ask you to give up something that brings you such joy, especially when you are also doing it for your sister.
My opinion only, of course.
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Sounds like he just doesn't like to go on vacation for more than a few days. I have some family members who are "home bodies" and don't like to be away from where they are comfortable for more than a day or two - if that.
My suggestion? ASK your DH why he seems to resent your vacations to WDW. If it's because you pay for your sister, then remind him she does things for you guys and that she does what she can. Ask him if there is a way the two of you can get to an understanding about your going to WDW with her.
I wouldn't let him take that time away from you - not only are you enjoying yourself and unwinding from working, but you're also spending time with your sister.
Maybe you can curtail your trips to every other year - but add a few days? Or spend less time, but still go yearly?
My hubby is not a huge Disney fan either. He goes as the family enjoys it, but we don't go once a year. If you go with your sister and your husband goes along, perhaps he can skip a day or two at Disney to explore other interests such as golf, etc.
I agree with Ashli about letting the Disney trips be with just your sister and do some mini-getaways with your hubby at other locations. If he just likes to be at home, do staycations, day trips or an overnighter or two close to home.
You can both be happy...just going to take some compromising.
My DH is not a Big fan of Disney. However, he loves me enough to take me every 2 years. We also now have 2 DGC that we love to take to Disney. I include him in the planning, especially where we intend to eat. Now, we all pretend he is running the vacation and all is well.
I am the household workaholic. I like vacations but I hate leaving my job in somebody else's hands. There are things I don't like to do because the hassle outweighs what I see would be the enjoyment of time and money spent.
That said, does your leaving put strain on his time or add a lot of hassle to his schedule at home? Are these things that can be set up in advance, like meals or a dog-walking service? Are there special things he can do at home while you're gone that you don't like to do together?
Good luck. I hope you can work something out for both of you.