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[Shawnam1868]

Ok PP'ers....I need some help here. I was talking to my husband today and I told him he owed me for something, and he responded with "but you told me a few weeks ago that there's no owesies in marriage". I told him there was, it's a fine line, so he told me that he would only believe me if I could find that rule in a book. So, me, being a wise behind, decided to make a book as a gift for him, The Rules of Marriage. So tell me, what's your number one rule in your marriage/relationship?

[chillepepa]

1. The wife is always right.
2. If in doubt, see rule #1.

[CinderAbby]

1. The wife is always right.
2. If in doubt, see rule #1.

How long have you been married? Lenny and I are going on 13 years and he has yet to learn these 2. He actually gets upset at all the times I'm right and when he says things like "you're right. You're always right" I bite my tongue and try not to smile but it doesn't always work

[Shawnam1868]

Originally Posted by CinderAbby

How long have you been married? Lenny and I are going on 13 years and he has yet to learn these 2. He actually gets upset at all the times I'm right and when he says things like "you're right. You're always right" I bite my tongue and try not to smile but it doesn't always work

Haha, I love it. Steve hates it when I'm right, which is legitimately like 95% of the time. He's learning though that when I know I'm right, to just let it go.

[DebiDebiDebi]

Rule number one in our 32 year marriage... we are a team; equal partners. It's served us well!

[Ashli]

We're equal partners in my marriage too, but if I'm being cheeky I would say a good rule is: Before you insist it's not where I said it was, actually LOOK there.

[renbugs]

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Originally Posted by Ashli

We're equal partners in my marriage too, but if I'm being cheeky I would say a good rule is: Before you insist it's not where I said it was, actually LOOK there.

I say this all the time to my husband.....

Work together and NEVER, NEVER go to be mad at each other, Stay up all night and hash it out if you have to NEVER go to bed angry!!

[hleland]

Ok, I'm not married. Never have been actually, but when my cousin got married a couple months ago the family made a book for them that was sort of a Marriage Bible!!! Some of the advice that I remember off the top of my head:
Never go to bed mad.
Cook dinner together (this was from the 2 kids in the family, ages 5 and 7)
Always make time for each other (i.e. date night type stuff) even after you have kids)
That's all I can think of off right now. This advice came mostly from couples that have been married for a very long time, so I figure it's probably pretty good!

[chezp]

Originally Posted by chillepepa

1. The wife is always right.
2. If in doubt, see rule #1.

So true!

[Tigger71]

Share the remote control!!!
Cleaning the pool is a man's job but the rest of the housework should be shared.
Keep one special day of the month (or week as we now do) as "date day".
Continue to do things that make each other smile...a post it note on the bathroom mirror ALWAYS puts me in a good mood.
Talk about money and kids before the wedding.
Never forget the reason you were first attracted to each other. We still laugh about this one!

[Teresa]

Don't make up just because someone said "Don't go to bed mad". It's okay to go to bed mad. It's okay to not talk about - but don't blow up about it 3 years later!
Don't make a "Date Night" - you're not dating, you're married. Spend time together and enjoy it when and where you can (we go to the grocery together if we can, fold laundry together, run errands, etc.)
ALWAYS make time for each other, no matter what. Even when the kids come (or even if they're already there and are a mix of yours, mine, and ours), spend time together. See above for suggestions.

The biggest one we've always followed: it's okay for someone to be wrong, just don't gloat over it if you're the one who isn't wrong!

[JoanneS]

Always support your spouse in public. Then, when you get him alone, tell him he was wrong.

Get two tv's. Don't make your DW watch football, and she won't make you watch "Beaches."

Earplugs.

[minemoz1]

Originally Posted by JoanneS

Earplugs.

I love football. One of the best things you can do with your DH.

Don't smother your spouse. You are still two separate people with your own interests who chose to share a life together. Let your spouse pursue their own interests without complaint. I always feel bad for DH's friends who get married (without kids) and we never see them again. They are not "allowed" out with the boys for game night, paintball, etc.

[Ashli]

Originally Posted by Teresa

Don't make a "Date Night" - you're not dating, you're married.

True, you're married, but sometimes for people who have very hectic work schedules or little children (who require things pre-planned like babysitters), the only way you get out alone with your spouse is to plan a "date night." Personally, I think it is a very important thing to do.

[WeatherTed]

Originally Posted by Teresa

Don't make up just because someone said "Don't go to bed mad". It's okay to go to bed mad. It's okay to not talk about - but don't blow up about it 3 years later!
Don't make a "Date Night" - you're not dating, you're married. Spend time together and enjoy it when and where you can (we go to the grocery together if we can, fold laundry together, run errands, etc.)
ALWAYS make time for each other, no matter what. Even when the kids come (or even if they're already there and are a mix of yours, mine, and ours), spend time together. See above for suggestions.

The biggest one we've always followed: it's okay for someone to be wrong, just don't gloat over it if you're the one who isn't wrong!

Teresa, I like your advice!